Have you ever had one of those weeks at work? You know the kind of week where Murphy’s Law was the rule. If it could go wrong, it did. I think most of us have experienced those days, weeks, and months. I once had a year like that until I figured out the culture no longer was a match for me. It wasn’t a good fit. The answer to that situation was simple – I resigned. I didn’t say it was easy; it wasn’t. It was difficult. I had invested ten years and helped the organization grow and prosper. However, whether it was the business that had changed or me, it no longer was a rewarding experience, so it was a simple solution. The point I want to make is that it’s difficult to share your victories when it seems like they’re aren’t any. However, that’s not usually the case, there are always victories to share. They might be small but they’re still wins. And regardless their scope it’s important to share your victories.

We All Have Bad Days

But what if you enjoy your job but just had a bad day? The answer isn’t quite as simple, but it’s close. I love my job, most days I arrive early. I’m writing this from home on a Saturday because the inspiration hit me and I wanted to work not because I felt obliged to do so. Does it get any better than that? However, as much as I love my job, it isn’t perfect and nor am I.  I still have those days and weeks where things just don’t go as planned. So, here’s what I do.

Identify Your Wins

Regardless of how bad things seem there’s always something that went right. Usually, there are victories to be found in any outcome, and if you’re having trouble identifying a victory turn your defeat into one. Use whatever went wrong as a lesson and map out how to avoid the defeat in the future.

Celebrate and Share Your Victories 

I share wins with a friend. She tells me hers, and I talk about mine. Sometimes they’re big, but not always. A win is a win, and regardless of its scope, it feels good to share. Every night when I get home my wife asks about my day. It used to be that I’d tell her about my problems but for the last few years, I’ve primarily shared what went right not what went wrong. It’s a lot more fun to share battles I’ve won rather than skirmishes I’ve lost.

You Can’t Win ‘Em All

No, you can’t win ‘em all, but you can identify and share victories every day. If you look close enough, focus on the positive, and not worry about the size of the win, you’ll find your victories. And when you do, and then concentrate on what you did well, your attitude and focus will reflect your successes. You have a choice, wallow in and eventually become defeated by your losses or you can focus on your victories, learn from your defeats, and move forward. It’s up to you.